Melly Was Here

wife, mother, teacher, runner, writer, lover, fighter

Here is what we should do.

Sometimes, life is hard. And there is pain.  Sometimes, we lose the ones we love. Or we see the ones we love suffer and we can’t make their suffering go away.  Or we just remember those things in our past that hurt, that broke our heart.

And that pain is real and we are entitled to it.

But, we can’t let it ruin us.  We can’t let it end us.

There is much to live for.  There is the sunrise.  A new day.  A chance to brush the dust off and live again.

There are people who need us.  Your mom.  Your best friend from the sixth grade.  Your work friend.

Here is what we should do: Get up in the morning. Just get up and make a cup of coffee. Move through the world, knowing that it will get better. We will be ok. It won’t be easy, it won’t be today or tomorrow, but eventually, we will be ok.

Everyday we will get stronger.  We will be able to look back and remember the good times. And know that those things that tried to destroy us – those things that we did not get to choose- they will make us stronger.

And we will get through it. We will.

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Another Summer in the Books.

I haven’t been here since June? What? Really?
I go back to school on Monday and my boys go back the following week. It’s been an awesome summer. Lots of sleeping in, swimming, hanging out. I took a writing class. I organized a few rooms. I snuggled with my boys. I grew herbs and peppers.
I don’t know what I am going to do with this blog. I go through phases. I’m going to put a pin in it for now.
Life is good. I am focusing. I am living right. My boys are doing well. My man is doing well. I just don’t know if there is room here for this.

We’ll see.

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Favorite Conversations of the Day.

Butch, noticing my Hogwarts shirt: Hogwarts? Really?
Me: Yes, you’re mommy is a nerd.
Butch: I know.
Me: So are you.
Butch: I know.
We high five.

Sundance, noticing I am making a chocolate cake: Chocolate! Chocolate! Chocolate!
Me: Please stop saying, “Chocolate.”
Sundance, whispering, “But I love chocolate.”

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Thankful Thursday

It seems like I have been spending a great deal of my time thinking of solutions for my problems.  It’s a bunch of little stuff that is going wrong these days here at home and at school.  No big, earth shattering stuff – little stuff that when all added together is pretty exhausting.

Today, I got terribly discouraged.  To the point of tears.

But, then I talked to my mom and she told me about how people in Africa are going blind from lack of nutrition.  Like, young kids getting cataracts. I realized, my problems are still problems, but damn, they could be so much worse.

I have a lot of stuff in my life that is going pretty well.   Here they are, the top ten things that are going right in my life (in no particular order):

1.  My family is all healthy and happy.  My boys are growing up to be pretty amazing young men.

2.  My mom lives a mile away.  I get to see her every day and my boys are very close to her.   We are closer than we have ever been and I am loving every minute of it.  I am so glad she decided to move here to be near us.

3. I am married to my favorite person in the whole world.

4.  We can pay our bills every month with a little left over to enjoy life.

5.  I can lace up my running shoes and go on a run whenever I choose.   My body is healthy and strong.

6.  I work at a school full of people who I can count on, trust and who have something to teach me.  The cream of the crop, these people.  Every one of them.

7.  I work side by side in my classroom with an incredible friend who makes me want to be a better person.

8,  I am still close to people I have known since the third grade.  It is so nice not to have to explain myself.  We have history.

9.  Beer and chocolate.

10.  I have a beautiful home in an awesome city.   With orange walls.  I love my orange walls.

I have a good life.


Run For Sherry

This Saturday, I will be running for a fellow runner, Sherry, who was taken from this world tragically and far too soon.  Please join me in the 2nd Annual Run for Sherry.  And, be safe.  You are important to someone.


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